Relationships with others are the most important resources in our lives, but many couples get to a place in their relationships where they become stuck in an unfortunate cycle of miscommunication and fighting. They feel like they are on opposite sides of the universe and don’t realize that they both want nothing more than to be connected again. Often couples engage in problematic interactive patterns in a repetitive yet unsuccessful attempt to reconnect and recapture their original bond.
Couples therapy can help untangle these negative cyclical patterns between partners. A safe therapeutic environment helps identify the problematic interactions and explore the feelings that lie underneath. Ultimately, couples can understand each other’s fears and longings and start relating to one another again, while forging the strong bonds of trust and love that are the basis of a healthy relationship.
I specialize in accompanying couples on this difficult yet promising journey and I welcome straight and gay couples alike in my practice. Research has shown that the principles of bonding and forming relationships, and thus effective treatment of couples’ problems, are very similar for straight and gay couples. I believe, however, that same-sex couples sometimes face additional challenges that require a specific sensibility and care that I incorporate into my practice. I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with affiliation with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) (see http://www.iceeft.com/) and the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (NYCEFT) (see http://www.nyceft.org/)